There are certain traits that help radiate a strong and positive personality. These traits can be studied, learnt, practised and perfected. From your self-image, the confidence that you radiate, your likeability and more, understand how you can hone your personality to become more attractive, confident and successful.
Advice from Masters: Quotes & Tips on having a Positive Personality
Non-Verbal Cues
Confidence
Walk Faster: Walk 25 percent faster. Psychologists also tell us you can actually change your attitudes by changing your posture and speed of movement.
Speaking up: Practice speaking up. Put this confidence builder to use. Make it a rule to speak up at every open meeting you attend. Speak up, say something voluntarily at every business conference, committee meeting, community forum you attend. Make no exception.
Reach out and introduce yourself: Next time you are in a large group, observe something very significant: the most important person present is the one person most active in introducing himself. Introduce yourself to others at every possible opportunity—at parties, meetings, on airplanes, at work, everywhere.
David J Schwartz – The Magic of Thinking Big
Self-image
Cement in your mind the question “Is this the way an important person does it?” Use this question to make you a bigger, more successful person.
David J Schwartz – The Magic of Thinking Big
Your Attitude
Use positive language: Use big, positive, cheerful words and phrases to describe how you feel. Use bright, cheerful, favorable words and phrases to describe other people. Use positive language to encourage others. Use positive words to outline plans to others.
Enthusiasm: To activate others, to get them to be enthusiastic, you must first be enthusiastic yourself. The enthusiastic salesman need never worry about unenthusiastic buyers. The enthusiastic teacher need never worry about disinterested students. The activated minister need never be distressed by a sleepy congregation.
David J Schwartz – The Magic of Thinking Big
Genuine Interest in Others
Listening: Effective listening is the single most powerful thing you can do to build and maintain a climate of trust and collaboration. Strong listening skills are the foundation for all solid relationships.
Similarity & The Law of Familiarity: People like people who are like them. People feel comfortable with who and what they know.
Authentic: When you project your authentic self, people will respond to and connect with it. When we come from an authentic, genuine place in ourselves, our efforts to connect with people work to their fullest.
The Law of Curiosity: But continuing to initiate conversations and be curious about people is fundamental to building valuable relationships, because curiosity creates connections. Genuine curiosity can lead to more authentic, engaging conversations, which lay the foundation for sustained relationships.
Michelle Tillis Lederman – Author – 11 Laws of Likability
Recommended Books – Positive Personality
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Authors: Dale Carnegie,
This legendary book is considered to be one of the best books ever written, to help you develop your interpersonal skills. You’ll learn how to make people love you, make your team work together towards achieving goals and capture the attention of people when you communicate your ideas.
Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone
Authors: Mark Goulston,Keith Ferrazzi
Once you master communication skills, you’ll find opportunities everywhere you go. Whether it’s a potential buyer, your spouse or even an enemy, knowing what to say and when to say it can be life-transforming. This book holds all the secrets to achieving this transformation. Goulston’s insights will make you a better listener and even a great pacifier when necessary.
The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism
Authors: Olivia Fox Cabane,
Charisma isn’t necessarily a divine gift. Certain practices can make anyone develop this trait. Drawing from her experience and work at Harvard and MIT, Olivia Fox reveals these practices so that you can become as charismatic as Oprah and Bill Clinton. Your journey to becoming influential and an inspiration to many has just begun.
Videos – Positive Personality
7 Keys to a Positive Personality
Feeding your mind with positive ideas and thoughts, help develop a positive personality. Use the following keys – (1) Positive self-talk (2) Positive visualisation (3) Positive people (4) Positive mental food (5) Positive training & development (6) Positive health habits (7) Positive expectations.
How To Be More Likeable | 7 Tips To Improve Your Likeability
7 key tips to be more likeable – (1) A positive attitude (2) Be passionate (3) A sense of humour (4) Control your insecurities (5) Be a good listener (6) Be humble (7) Learn to compliment.
Other concepts on Personality
Trust
We prefer to spend time and do business with people that we trust, and avoid any interactions with those that we have lost our trust in. Trust can take years to develop, yet be lost within a matter of minutes. Understand the key elements that lead to trust developing, and how to ensure that you don’t do things that break it.
Genuine Interest in Others
The very foundation of all successful interpersonal relations, is developing a genuine interest in the other person. This involves the ability to truly listen, caring for the other persons interests & opinions, taking the effort to remember their names and other important details and willing to overlook minor imperfections.
First Impressions
First impressions are the impressions that we form of others when we encounter them for the first time, and before we get to know them better. First impressions lay the foundation of future interactions, which makes the study and practise of the biases that impact first impressions a vital tool in interpersonal relations.